4 years and so many losses.

Its been 4 years.

Ive lost 4 uncles and many more cousins, and friends.

But its crazy to think that I have lost 4 uncles in 4 years. 2 uncles just last year. How unlucky am I?

Its difficult to reflect back on pictures and memories and to really grasp that fact that they are gone. Gone forever. Its a painful thought that I often feel when it comes to my mother. But its different for family members that actually care about you, and not treat you like dirt.

One phone call. One letter. One post card. I would give anything for just one more phone call to hear their voices, and their laughter.

Cherish those family members that are still alive. I know it may seem hypocritical of me because I have no relations with my mother, and I refuse to make an effort. But its my way of healing and dealing with her bullshit. I refuse to put myself back in the fire only to be burned for the millionth time. I refuse to be called a bitch, and a whore by someone who brought me into this joyous world. I wont have it.

All I have our the happy memories. Happy memories in Michigan. Happy memories in Nunapitchuk. I can smile and remember them, and cry and remember them. They will always be apart of me.

Tell your loved one you love them often as possible. Make that phone call. Write that letter. Just because they are distant relatives, or uncles and aunts you never talk to hardly make that effort. In the end they are still family.

My uncle Ali passed away in May 2010.
My uncle Ali passed away in May 2010.
My uncle At'saq passed in July 2012.
My uncle At’saq passed in July 2012.
My Uncle Hank passed in December 2013.
My Uncle Hank passed in December 2013.
My Uncle Chuck passed in March 2013.
My Uncle Chuck passed in March 2013.

Between uncles passing many other cousins, and friends have passed. Its crazy to look back and think of all those that have passed before me. Sad. But it is what it is.

Even though my mother is still alive I would give anything to have my uncles still here to this day. Who wants heartbreak, and being dragged in the mud with all kinds of nasty names spit on you as you pass by?

I know I dont.

One Reply to “4 years and so many losses.”

  1. I feel your pain expressed here and I feel so sad that the mom that gave you life does not realize the beautiful baby she birthed has blossomed into
    an awesome beauty. So full of life and love, and caring and sharing her
    love and joy to all that are lucky enough to encounter her in any way. I
    cannot even begin to know how much you must actually hurt inside your
    Heart but I believe your higher power or whomever leads and guides you
    will and is helping you in some way. And we, your loving family members,
    love and treasure you, appreciate you, put up with your goofy antics that we love and can’t wait to see what’s next. Your calls, contacts of any kind
    Are shared by all of us. Just want you to know you are precious and hope
    your family, siblings and hubby know how much we love you also.
    Sorry I rambled on so long. Stay strong. Auntie Jan

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