Holiday Sadnesses

As the holidays are nearing I feel a sadness begin to overwhelm my soul.

I cant remember the last time that I spent a holiday with my mother…

I know I am an adult and I have my own family, and I shouldnt want her around as much… But considering the last Christmas that she spent with us was maybe 10 years ago or longer… I can probably count on my fingers the number of Christmas’s and Thanksgivings’s, birthday’s that she has spent with my brother, dad and myself and I am 26. Not a whole damn lot.

As a kid its saddening. I can remember crying myself to sleep some nights because of the unknowns. Why didnt she want to spend Christmas with us? Would she be at my birthday? Will she spend Thanksgiving with us? Year after year the same depressing feelings.

Now. I cant even stand to be in the same room with her. In and out of jail for reasons unknown. The moment she gets out of jail or the half-way house shes all smiles and hugs as if nothing happened. As if she didnt call me a bitch. Or threaten me. Or whatever she does. Nothing. Everything is sparkles and ponies. Bull. It sickens me to my stomach. How can a human being be so stupid? Shes a fucking idiot. Yes shes mother and blah blah blah. And shes sick. And has a disease. Yes. She is all those things but she is not trying. She thinks she can apologize for calling me a bitch and everything be fine without actually taking into consideration my feelings, and emotions. She must think, Oh I can just apologize, tell her I love her unconditionally and everything is kosher.

There is no room in my heart for my mother. Until she decides she wants help and wants to get better. Then maybe. Then maybe then I will make a spot for her but until then she is nothing to me.

No human being gets a pass for that kind of behavior. I mean give me a break shes in her mid 60s and has been a raging alcholic since I was like 4 years old. 22 years of homelessness, drunk, calling your daughter all names in the book that no child should ever have to hear. Sickening.

My holiday sadness is no more. After writing this and getting my blood boiling and getting myself irritated I dont have no sadness for her. She has played the victim card for 22 years. Go spend your holiday on the streets with a bottle of R & R.

4 thoughts on “Holiday Sadnesses

  1. I can feel the pain. I can relate. I felt the same about my non existent father. Never there. I never spent a birthday or Christmas with him. I did spend them with my mother, but she ruined every single one by getting drunk and becoming abusive. I hate the holiday season. I have spent it alone since I was 13 and I’m now 25. It sucks. Anyway, point is, I feel your pain, I wish you didn’t have to go through that. But it’s good that you are deciding not to feel sad about the holidays anymore. You can give your children everything you missed out on. Hugs.

    1. The pain comes and goes. For the most part I usually set it aside until its all bottled up and I explode and the river flows fierce! πŸ™‚ It sucks. But what can you do… Thanks I feel your pain too. The only thing is I LOVE holidays. I am blasting holiday music on October 31st πŸ™‚ Future season greetings to you.

    2. Ive realized that I cannot allow her to ruin any more of my holidays, ever. Its not worth. Holidays are suppose to be a happy time and I try my best to keep it that way. If she wants to live her life that way, then she can go on right ahead. I wont stick around for her. I am too happy of a person to allow her to ruin my life. Thanks. I understand that awful feeling though.

  2. I can feel the pain. I can relate. I felt the same about my non existent father. Never there. I never spent a birthday or Christmas with him. I did spend them with my mother, but she ruined every single one by getting drunk and becoming abusive. I hate the holiday season. I have spent it alone since I was 13 and I’m now 25. It sucks. Anyway, point is, I feel your pain, I wish you didn’t have to go through that. But it’s good that you are deciding not to feel sad about the holidays anymore. You can give your children everything you missed out on. Hugs.

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